The Must-Do List
I believe that success starts in the moment. I coach myself to think of myself as excellent. This sounds simple enough however there is a science to it. Everyone will say set goals and plan your strategy. It needs to be a bit more than that. It also needs to involve more of your inside view of who you are versus what you think you want. What I mean is think of how this goal will make you feel? How will it change your life? Will it impact how you are viewed? Get to the real reason for this choice. If the answers to these questions inspire you to pursue further then you are in alignment with this goal. I recommend looking at the daily achievements needed to attain this goal. What must I do each day and how must I feel in order to be motivated to do it daily? It’s this must-do list and the corresponding mood that will guide you to be more engaged in the moment and keep you in alignment with accomplishment.
The Physical Reminder
Next, you need a way to stay engaged in the moment. This is important because distractions will not stop just because you want to achieve a goal. You must find ways to snap-back into that state of excellence. This may sound odd but I use mild discomfort as a tool to remain focused on a concept throughout the day. Nothing harmful of course but a rubber band around the wrist would do the trick. I personally use my watch. I buckle the strap a little tighter than normal so that I know it’s there I associate that discomfort with the goal I am working on. So, several times during the day I touch my wrist and adjust the strap. While doing that I check in with myself and see how well I’ve maintained focus and how close I am to achieving the day’s tasks for the goal. This affords you a random audit of your thoughts and how you’re engaging in your personal view of yourself.
Finally, you must find ways that allow you to recognize your efforts and validate that achievement with some sort of celebration. This is something most people fail at doing because it seems like it would be less than modest or over indulgent. However celebrating achievements, great and small, serves as the motor that drives continuous achievement. I see it as the light at the next stop of the tunnel. Knowing that it’s not the final stop, it keeps me focused on short term successes rather than being overly concerned with what I must do next or why I don’t have to complete the journey to its successful completion. These are some of the techniques I use to coach myself and others. I hope the same is true for you.
My earliest view of Intelligence was narrow at best. I knew three versions of the word. Those that were, those that weren’t and those that were average. I am happy to say that none of these versions were deemed unacceptable in the eyes of my family and immediate circle. All were welcomed. As an adult, I stumbled on ways to expand my intelligence. In this post, I will discuss my approach to the end feeding off my intelligence. The most important realization I can share is that you crave intellectual growth. The value of knowledge will serve you throughout your life in ways you cannot imagine until the moment you need it.
I love curiosity. It’s this great treasure hunt and everything you find has value. I use curiosity to find new behaviors that may benefit me or something I know. Curiosity is one of the best techniques for those who struggle with social anxiety. Asking questions to learn about someone gives them something to talk about and you the ability to calmly listen without fear of saying the wrong thing or worse having nothing to say. The art of being interested will make you interesting. Develop a natural curiosity by trying new foods, taking different routes home from work, chatting with new people and asking questions.
Another wonderful way to add a different facet to the gem that is your mind, is to travel. Take trips and look for an off-the-beaten-path experience. Live like a local. Eat their food, wear their clothes and study their traditions. Travel as far as you can, as often as you can. Traveling to other places is life changing for a number of reasons. It gives you another view of the world. Travel can help you expand your circle of friends and create a network of travel buddies. It also gives you an idea of how your home is viewed by the outside world. Travel will make your intellect wealthier with every trip. Remember, the further from home you travel the more exotic you become.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking. Reading is boring and it makes me sleepy. So what happens when you’re watching a TV show and you don’t like it? What do you do? You stop watching… same logic here. I would argue that most people would enjoy reading if they had an author and subject that sparked their imagination. For me, it was science fiction which naturally yields an interest in science of today, which made me interested in the people behind the science. I then discovered a love of biographies and history. So, reading is essential to the growth of your mind and the use of your imagination. Start with books you find interesting and develop a curiosity for new and different experiences through books.