How to create an unstoppable drive that moves mountains!

When you think of the most successful people you know and how they continue to succeed over and over you probably wonder how they do it. Are they just born with it? What’s the secret? For those of us with ADHD, our challenge sometimes prevents us from staying inspired until a goal is achieved. One thing you must do is understand the important difference between motivation and drive. Motivation is great but it is also temporary drive is most important because it provides the fuel you will need to continue when your motivation begins to dull. So I ordered to create the type of drive the insures success you must create a moving image of goal achievement. The following series of questions are designed to solidify the type of drive that keeps your focus. Remember to be honest with yourself and hold yourself to the highest level of accountability when outlining your strategy for achieving any goal. Review these questions and define answers that fall into place for you begin your path to excellence one goal at a time.

 What will this change for me?

Asking this question after you have created a goal will ensure this is what you truly want. You must then understand why you want this. Asking this question is important because it provides clarity and is the underlining rationale behind your goal. For someone with ADHD creating inspiration that can be converted to actions is an important life strategy. It’s good for anyone but essential for those with this condition, this question helps you begin to see yourself in a different light. It also gives you the ability to reform your reality. It’s a way of creating a belief in an idea. I ask this question to also test how serious I am about a goal or idea. It’s a question that filters and helps you develop a focus on something you truly desire. To further solidify your commitment to a goal ask these additional questions

How will you feel?

We don’t think enough about how we feel during the achievement of a goal, the feeling is an important driver for achievement. When you think of how you feel it puts into the mindset of taking action. For example, think of how you feel after a great hike or a bike ride. That high is something that will motivate you to do it again and again. It becomes something you look forward to.

How will you look?

How you see yourself attaining a goal also adds clarity to your desired achievement. How will the world see you? As smart, confident, attractive. Create an image of your ideal self in this moment,

What will a typical day be for you?

This will bring the ideal into a more realistic space. How will you feel is an important question because you can anchor yourself to the idea but recall that feeling on a regular basis.

Next, create an image of yourself in the perfect state. The state of mind that is confident, passionate whatever it is picture yourself as that.

Finally,

The detailed approach to creating a moving and vibrant image of your goal is my most effective way to create an unstoppable drive that leads to lasting change. Think of this as a movie that you will watch over and over as it begins to play out in real-time.  I highly recommend setting this to music so that it becomes second nature and you can quickly put yourself into the state of mind that drives you.  Use these tactics to give you the ability to take massive action towards achieving  your goals and developing the important skill of being driven to success

The Plus Side Of Assuming The Best

The Surprise

So, if you’ve learned to trust that you are good enough, what would be different about you? How would your life change? For years, I believed I paid no attention to what it meant to say. Yes, I never noticed how my decisions to pursue any endeavors was based on my preconceived idea of what is or is not possible. Keep in mind I had nearly complete faith in my ability to fail and be laughed at. This approach to life is common for many people. There was no single event that changed my view of my potential. It was mastering my ability to identify successful behaviors from the past then leveraging those behaviors to grow and do different things. The big surprise was I had abilities that I’d been using all along to manage my day to day life but not necessarily grow.

The Learnings

The strategies I learned to cultivate and use towards accelerating my growth were already in play. I just didn’t recognize what I was doing. The most important are Adaptability, I am a master at dealing with the consistency of change. I embrace change because it sharpens my ability to find new pathways and directions for learning. If you can master adaptation you can learn to control one of the biggest roadblocks to personal growth, fear or fear of change. Adaptability has a very important upside, it builds confidence.

The Rewards

The reward is that you get to change your life for the better when and as often as you’d like to. Everything becomes possible when you think that you’re capable. Failure is no longer a fear but a useful tool for research that provides you with information that increases your ability to achieve rather than prevent you from moving forward. The ultimate advantage of assuming the best about yourself is you’re rarely disappointed.

3 Ways To Synchronize Your Actions To Match This Vision

 

The Must-Do List

I believe that success starts in the moment. I coach myself to think of myself as excellent. This sounds simple enough however there is a science to it. Everyone will say set goals and plan your strategy. It needs to be a bit more than that. It also needs to involve more of your inside view of who you are versus what you think you want. What I mean is think of how this goal will make you feel? How will it change your life? Will it impact how you are viewed? Get to the real reason for this choice. If the answers to these questions inspire you to pursue further then you are in alignment with this goal. I recommend looking at the daily achievements needed to attain this goal. What must I do each day and how must I feel in order to be motivated to do it daily?  It’s this must-do list and the corresponding mood that will guide you to be more engaged in the moment and keep you in alignment with accomplishment.

The Physical Reminder

Next, you need a way to stay engaged in the moment. This is important because distractions will not stop just because you want to achieve a goal. You must find ways to snap-back into that state of excellence. This may sound odd but I use mild discomfort as a tool to remain focused on a concept throughout the day. Nothing harmful of course but a rubber band around the wrist would do the trick. I personally use my watch. I buckle the strap a little tighter than normal so that I know it’s there I associate that discomfort with the goal I am working on. So, several times during the day I touch my wrist and adjust the strap. While doing that I check in with myself and see how well I’ve maintained focus and how close I am to achieving the day’s tasks for the goal. This affords you a random audit of your thoughts and how you’re engaging in your personal view of yourself.

The Celebration

Finally, you must find ways that allow you to recognize your efforts and validate that achievement with some sort of celebration. This is something most people fail at doing because it seems like it would be less than modest or over indulgent. However celebrating achievements, great and small, serves as the motor that drives continuous achievement. I see it as the light at the next stop of the tunnel. Knowing that it’s not the final stop, it keeps me focused on short term successes rather than being overly concerned with what I must do next or why I don’t have to complete the journey to its successful completion. These are some of the techniques I use to coach myself and others. I hope the same is true for you.

3 Ways To Feel Wealthy Without Spending A Dime!

 

Watch the Sunrise

This is one of my favorite assignments that I give to my clients. You can google that exact time the sun rises and then set your clock to wake you up just before it. If you’re not a morning person you can always go back to sleep, however, this act of watching the sunrise is one of the most wonderful benefits of living and its price never changes. I refer to the sun rising as the great reset! The act of sitting and watching the sunrise provides you with the most obvious truth that each day is truly a new start. If you are enduring a challenge in your life I promise that watching the sunrise will provide a relieving inspiration and most of all a better understanding of what truly is important. The sunrise is a wonder to enjoy no matter where you are in your life. Enjoy it.

Strategic Acts of Kindness

We often hear the occasional feel good story about a random act of kindness. They are beautiful and create a sense of joy knowing that there are people in the world that believe in kindness.

Social media is now mostly seen as a tool to glorify the worst in humanity, however, it also provides a platform for the millions of acts of kindness caught on video, so what if we all decide that we could be more strategic and commit to being an instrument of kindness. Think of some of the little things that make you smile, the moment when you were provided with an unexpected gift of some kind. I like to thank people for helping contribute to my day or letting a person know that their kind words or smile makes them my MVP for the day! Simple acts of kindness should be sincere and purposeful. They almost always add up to a day filled with more joy and a real sense of presence.

Listening with a Loving Ear.

We live in a world with unlimited ways of communication at any hour of the day or night. Even with all the technology that allows us to talk with each other, there seems to be a real need for many of us to be heard and understood. My idea of listening with a loving ear is about cultivating your ability to appreciate the experiences and life stories of those around you. Friends and strangers have compelling stories that go untold because there is this feeling that no one cares.  Appreciation of these stories leads to new and enhanced friendships that are based on trust and honesty. Few things could be more valuable. Listening with a loving ear means you are here to enjoy the journey as told by someone else. You are not required to advise or provide an opinion. Simply listen so that the other person can be heard with love.

What Does It Take?

 

Everyone has big dreams but do you know what it takes to make those dreams a reality? More importantly, are you willing to do what is needed to attain this dream? Most people are not or have underestimated what’s needed. Then there are those that are comfortable with just dreaming about it. The long and the short of it is dream all you want, dream as biggest as you want, all things are possible. Those that are willing to stay up late working on a dream will make it. Those that are willing to look foolish in the short term get success in the long term. Those that make no excuses about excuses will not be excused from success! Push yourself to more and be more. Discover your unique brand of success.

Clear Vision 

Start with having an idea of what it is you want to accomplish and it’s completed form. It’s not enough to say I want to lose weight. You need to be specific, you need to have a vision of what you would like to look or have an idea of someone you could model yourself after. Whatever your goal is, it always starts with having a clear vision. It serves as the road map or pattern for your eventual success. Now, having a clear vision is hardly enough to hit the target, however, it is a vital step and should not be overlooked. This vision should also be revisited throughout the course of Time when you are working towards your goal.

Courage 

Anyone that wants to do something that hasn’t been done before has to address the idea of being afraid of achieving that goal. Courage is the ability to move forward and go after what it is that you want even though you might be afraid. You still know it must be done. On the other side of that fear is your goal and your achievement. Fear is not something that necessarily goes away but you should learn how to manage it and how it can stop you from achieving. Most obstacles are not outside, they are internal, they are self-inflicted wounds that you must learn how to manage in order to achieve greatness in any endeavor.

Strategic Planning 

Planning goes hand-in-hand with having a clear vision of what it is that you want to achieve. For individuals with ADHD, having a strategic plan gives them the ability to outline their daily achievement necessity that will lead to bold achievement goals. This is essential to the success of any goal. Strategic planning is just about mapping out your daily actions or weekly actions. It’s also about looking at what must be achieved every day in order to meet your targeted destination. For individuals that are interested in achievement, it always comes down to what it is that you are willing to do all day in order to hit the target.

No Excuses 

You must have the ability to remove the word ‘No’ from your vocabulary. If you talk to anyone who has had extraordinary success in life at some point in their life they learned that the word ‘No’ does not apply to them. You must be willing to have a ‘no excuses’ approach to driving towards your goal or attainment of your goal.

Is There Anything Positive About Having ADHD?

 

Here a Five traits adults living with ADHD can celebrate about!

It only takes one Google search to find tons of information about the difficulties surrounding ADHD and its symptoms. Many adults who have been newly diagnosed with ADHD have no idea of some of the wonderful strengths associated with ADHD. This is not to minimize the impact of some of the negative symptoms of ADHD. It is, however, designed to help those who have ADHD start to realize their true potential. Look at these five traits associated with ADHD, think of your own experiences, and see how some have fit into your life. Many adults with ADHD stumble over their strengths, many adults have such low self-esteem because of this disorder that they don’t realize they have these strengths. They view them merely as ‘accidents’ or ‘lucky breaks’ but not inherent skills that are associated with having ADHD.

Adaptability

Adults living with ADHD are natural at following the current, as it flows and adapts to whatever the situation is. Adaptability is an important strength to have. Many a time those living with ADHD learn to adjust to situations or modify their behaviors depending on their surroundings. While there are many people struggling with this, those with ADHD find the change a welcome relief to what could have been perceived as mundane or boring. Adults with ADHD may look for ways to experience new and exciting adventures. So being able to adapt is part of the process.

Imaginative

So, daydreaming may seem like something children do but those living with ADHD are masters at this. On the outside, it may seem like a very bad or useless skill to have but when put into the proper perspective, being imaginative is incredibly valuable and if the person living with ADHD is in the right type of workspace it could mean the difference between being the worst employee (accounting) or the best employee in the world (web design).

Entrepreneurial

Looking at the first two strengths it makes perfect sense that adults living with ADHD are natural-born entrepreneurs. They need to be in control of their own destiny, not reporting to a strict boss that lays down rules that they must adhere to. Being the captain of their own ship is most desirable. So, having ADHD makes you a fine candidate to be the owner of your own business. It’s important to note that not one business can be launched on your own. If you’re reading this and you have ADHD make sure you establish all the resources necessary to take the plunge into business ownership. Hire the right people to help you outsource all the tedious work and make sure that you have a system in place for operations before you begin.

Hopeful

This is a sort of foreshadowing of the next trait we will discuss, but this is one of the most important adherent traits anyone can have. The ability to find hope in just about every situation is one of the best qualities anyone can have but it is second nature to individuals living with ADHD. Part of having a mind wired this way means there is always another way – there’s always hope. That combined with the other traits listed is part of the equation of confidence for someone living with ADHD.

Problem-solver

As mentioned in the last section, adults living with ADHD know there’s always a solution to a problem. The difference between adults living with ADHD and others is we will look for the solution. We know that everything can be a challenge so we are ready to Hunt for the answers. We need to accomplish whatever task there is in front of us. Since being naturally curious we ask lots of questions and thus store lots of answers, so the process or system of solving problems becomes easier and faster for those living with ADHD.

So, if you are an adult living with ADHD or you are newly diagnosed, remember these five traits as your natural gifts, and when you cultivate and grow those gifts it will make your existence with ADHD a lot easier. Mastering these strengths will also give you the opportunity to dream bigger and do more.