3 strategies for making better decision

Unfiltered honesty with yourself.

Honesty is absolutely the best policy in areas of life, however, it is most valuable when dealing with one’s self. The human mind has many extraordinary abilities one of which is the ability to create a false narrative. That serves the purpose of keeping you in your comfort zone. We have all had moments when we have made decisions that were different then what we stated we’d say or do and sometimes with realizing it. This is not uncommon but it is damaging over time. It is what I refer to as the unseen anchor that prevents achievement. The best way to create a new habit is to look at every decision you make big or small and commit to honoring those decisions at all cost. When and if you don’t be honest and take ownership of what happened and commit to reclaiming that decision.

Constantly ask yourself questions

Asking questions is the foundation of effective coaching. You can use questioning techniques to help maintain a positive course towards a goal or to gain a better understanding of your current situation. A favorite question I like to ask when I’m unsure of myself or I’m attempting something new is “What proof do I have? This stops your mind from reviewing the worst possible outcomes over and over. Use this question to start your mind down a path of possibility by demanding evidence of possible failure. This also paints a picture of what can happen in a best-case scenario.

Remain calm

Your reaction to any situation negative or positive is usually based on how you view the world. Having a calm demeanor is an important part of effective decision making. Look at how you have reacted to news that is negative in some way. Your reaction could in some cases make a bad situation worse. So invest in your state of mind with meditation and remind yourself that

I control only my reaction, not the situation. Ongoing work in this area can pay huge dividends by providing you with a better framework to handle the stresses of life.

You alone can give meaning to your life in this unfair world

Discover your purpose

At an early stage, we become curious about life and what is the real purpose. We are all born to make an impact in the world and have a small seed of genius inside us. At the end, you might realize your contribution to the world or mourn over the missed opportunities of life. When one becomes curious and tries to answer the questions about life one might hit the right eureka moments. Keep searching and exploring and one day you will be able to answer your purpose in life. We all undergo unique challenges and come out a different person each time. Now, this experience becomes unique to you and no-one else can feel or know it. This is how to discover yourself and your purpose in life.

Wake up calls

The doors through which you wanted to walk through will start to shut down. If you have taken the wrong road there will be obstacles on the way hinting, that you might have made a mistake somewhere and chosen a wrong path. One should never wait for a major wakeup call in life to make changes. When life slaps you hard, be ready to make some REAL changes in life. The universe will send you signs and signals and lead you on the right path. Once you are on the right path, things will start falling in place. The right people will start to show up and your journey will become beautiful again. But many times we do not listen and respond to our wake up calls. Maybe it is time to unclutter your home, do something you truly love, deepen important relationships and own who you really are. Try to understand your wakeup call and act upon it today! Take control of your life, do not be worn out and start loving yourself.

Stress versus passion

Working hard for something we love is called passion, whereas working for something without any love will only create stress. It could be anything from work, personal or even a belief. Our personal meaning inspires us and it sets an equilibrium in one’s life. Only a true passion can transform the stress into passion. Passion is sometimes unpredictable. The challenge is bringing the two together and working in harmony which leads you to the path of success. But remember, passion can sometimes be unhealthy and adaptive. A healthy passion will allow you to provide a flexible persistence towards your desired activities. People who have a healthy passion feel less depressed, anxious or stressed. A big change can come with tiny steps and that is all that matters. It is not necessary to have a perfect plan for the next 10 years. All you need is an open heart and what your next step should be.

3 Ways To Restart A Bad Day !

 

Here are three ways to reclaim your day before it’s lost to disorganization!

Except That You Are Late

One of the challenges with having a day that is seemingly out of control is the emotional toll it takes on you, the anxiety that comes along with being behind the eight ball for the day. For those of us with ADHD this can be an all too common feeling and in some severe cases a dis-organized day with a late start is not the exception but more likely the rule.

To begin reclaiming your day, start with accepting where you are in the day, take a closer look at what can be accomplished then acknowledge to those around you that you are behind schedule, don’t feel obligated to explain why. Don’t feel compelled to tell a lie to justify being late. One of the best ways to limit that anxiety and return to the moment is to reach out to those around you that are affected and let them know that you’re running behind schedule. Create new times to meet and move deadlines.

Revise and Reimagine

After accepting that your day is late, it is time to revisit  your schedule, look at how much time you have remaining in  the day and have a conversation with yourself about what can be accomplished realistically. Look at your priorities. What are the activities that must be completed in order to stay on course, long term? How much time do you need for each of these tasks? So, even though you are behind schedule and late another great way to reduce the anxiety is to create a new to do list with estimated timelines for completion. Whatever the time allotted for something add 20% to it to ensure that you have enough time to complete those tasks. Remember you still have control of the day. Even if you only complete two things on your list you have managed to maximize the time available to you.

Keep One Eye On The Future

This next strategy may seem like it’s a bit out of place, however, it is crucial when I say keep one eye on the future. What you’re doing is ensuring that you will limit the number of items that you fall behind on. So even though you are behind schedule and you’re under the gun to complete many tasks I want you to put an item that is not currently due on the top of your list as a priority to do first. At the very least, do it second. The reason why you want to do this is, the things that are required of you and must be done, will in fact get done. One of the common causes of procrastination is thinking we have all the time in the world to complete some tasks, if you do it now especially on a day when you’re struggling to stay on top of things, you are teaching yourself a new skill. That skill is the ability to handle tasks as they come in versus always putting out fires. It’s reimagining your approach to time management.

Perspectives

Ultimately, you should remember that the work you are doing is necessary, important and, your willingness to complete tasks in a timely and accurate fashion has an overall effect on how you are perceived by others around you. All this has an impact on your own personal confidence and self-esteem. So, not only do we use these techniques to master difficult days but also to learn how to reclaim your confidence and put things into perspective. There will always be times when the day could have been better, don’t overthink it but do take control of it!

What should I eat if I have ADHD?

Diet and Nutrition for Adults With ADHD.

What you eat is important, However, it’s especially important for those adults living with ADHD. Food choices play an important role in how the symptoms of ADHD present themselves in adults. Take a simple approach to food and use the following guidelines help to manage ADHD.

Avoid Processed Food

More and more research shows the dangers and ill effects of consuming large quantities of processed food. Many adults make this choice at most meals of the day. For those adults living with ADHD, processed foods make ADHD symptoms worse. Do your best to avoid fast food and, frozen foods that have high sodium content.

Avoid Sugar

Most of us consume more sugar than our body actually needs, for those living with ADHD sugar has a negative impact and should be avoided in all forms. From simple table sugar, to products that contain high-fructose corn syrup is not recommended for individuals with ADHD traits.

Avoid Starch

Foods that contains large amounts of starch should also be avoided because they can cause the body to become sluggish during digestion and can enhance ADHD symptoms as a result. Try to limit items such as rice, pasta, and potatoes. Choose green leafy vegetables as much as possible.

Supplementation

When you cannot get all the Nutrients from the food you eat and To ensure that your body has everything it needs to function properly vitamin supplementation does help To keep it simple try a daily multivitamin and omega-3 fatty acids . Remember, supplementation helps your body and your brain operate at it’s best during the day, this is especially important for adults living with ADHD.
Having a clean and healthy diet is good for everybody. tThe additional benefit for those adults who have ADHD traits is that you tocan manage those traits a lot more effectively and become the best you can be!

Three steps Steps to Eliminate Stress Forever!

Everyone has stress of some sort that is present in their lives. For many people, learning how to manage stress is a difficult task. We know that high levels of stress can have hazardous impact on one’s health and well being.

Using this three-step strategy would help you minimize or eliminate bad stress in your life, starting today.

Focus on the Present Only !

The bulk of stress we live with has to do with obsessing over what has happened and focusing on the potential negative things that can happen. If you want to remove stress from your life the very first thing you must do is learn how to stay focused on the present. This does not mean you do not carry with you an awareness of the past or a plan for the future. You just don’t need to obsess over it. The present is where you have the most impact. If you find that you are worried about what can go wrong in the future, remember that it hasn’t happened yet and immediately put yourself back into the present state of mind. Mastering this ability to stay focused in the present is one of the best ways to eliminate stress. <br>

Take Vacation on A Daily Basis !

At first glance this might seem like an impossible task, but taking a moment out of every day to meditate or just sit and relax will have an extraordinary impact on your stress levels. Studies have shown that taking this mental break every day will boost productivity, have a positive impact on the immune system and influence creativity. Take the time to schedule ten minutes to an hour every day to just relax and meditate. You can set a reminder on your phone and commit to doing this. If you really want to lower your levels of stress and increase your focus, take a vacation every day! If you have ADHD this mental break is extremely essential in helping you control the flow of your day and manage your state of mind. These daily breaks will create clarity of mind, will allow you to focus on important tasks, and accomplish more on a daily basis.

Invest in Your Health !

The third step in managing your levels of stress is making sure that you are taking care of your body. This involves three key factors; what you eat, what you drink, and how much rest your body gets every day. Many of us choose to eat food that isn’t the best for us. If you are an adult living with ADHD, do your best to stay away from processed foods or foods high in sugar fructose corn syrup. The food you consume determines the energy you have on a daily basis. Exercise helps you by increasing your energy levels. Making sure you have adequate rest is also important to your energy level. Stress can take on many different forms; fatigue is a form of stress, and so making sure that you provide your body with everything it needs is the third most important key to managing stress.

The bottom-line

We all deal with stress, it’s just a part of life, but the key is your approach to managing stress successfully. It starts by understanding that stress will have a long-term negative impact on your life if Iyou don’t learn how to manage it. If you are an adult living with ADHD, one of the symptoms that you may have to deal with more often than the average person is worrying about future events. Use these techniques to learn how to minimize this symptom and free yourself from the stress caused by this ADHD traits.

 

The Imperfection of Perfectionism

Have you ever heard someone describe oneself as a perfectionist? It’s a term that is used by individuals who want to be known as ‘someone who is meticulous’, ‘someone who is in control and aware of everything’. The desire to define and deliver perfection is a noble goal, but it is rarely delivered. Perfectionism can be a negative trait associated with adults living with ADHD. The pursuit of perfection for these individuals is more about avoiding ‘finishing something’ rather than creating something that is perfect. That is not to say that perfectionism is wrong or bad, it is however important to know where perfectionism fits in.

 

Does it Need to Be Perfect?

I ask myself this question when I feel that I am spending too much time on details that may not be important, asking the question, “Does it need to be perfect?”, That’s a great way to reset behaviors and look at what is needed. To get in the habit of asking this question, take a moment and think of past situations where perfectionism prevented you from completing a project or severely slowed down the completion of the project. Replay these events and define what would’ve been considering a good result without becoming obsessed with trying to achieve perfection. Also, define those points during the process, when you had become overly obsessed with perfectionism. This will help you recognize yourself when you move into the state of perfectionism.

Perfection versus Excellence

If you can learn the difference between these two words, in those areas of your life where perfectionism is a problem, you will save yourself a ton of headaches, and release new level of productivity. Excellence is a very good substitute for perfection and you should be aware of the difference. It is important to note that excellence is not a shortcut or a substitute for perfection, it is an understanding of what the standard is and what it takes to meet or exceed that standard. Perfection, on the other hand, is the addition made to that standard, that may not impact the end result. So having the ability to understand the difference between perfection and excellence can help you deliver on time or early. It can also help you to maintain consistency.

When should you be a perfectionist?

I cannot stress how important it is to understand that this article is not about bunking away from being a perfectionist. It really is about knowing when you should apply the thought process of a perfectionist. So, if you would describe yourself as a perfectionist, determine when and where you should use this skill and learn how to turn it on or off. It should be a strategy that you are able to use when it is necessary and not all the time. Perfectionism is nothing more than a tool in your arsenal, thinking of it in this way will help you understand it’s power and how it should be used to help you move forward.