Intake of proper nutrition
At some point in life, we all have searched the entire house for a particular thing which we forgot where it was kept. We have even forgotten a birthday or anniversary because we are so occupied with our work. People of all ages tend to forget something at some point in life and age is only an excuse for having a poor memory. Doctors recommend consuming at least 5 vegetables every day to keep the brain healthy. When the brain starts getting the required nutrition in the body, it will function in a better way. A good nutritional diet keeps the brain healthy and active. There are many exercises which you can do to challenge the brain and make it active and smarter. Start with a small exercise by memorizing what you need from the grocery store. So, the next time you go shopping, memorize what you need from the store. Before checking out run through the things you might have missed. This way, you can keep the brain busy and help to increase brain health.
If you end up forgetting your toothpaste each time you pack your bag for vacation, create a reverse process. Keep the things first that you generally forget followed by other things. Follow the process of Reminder, Routine, and Reward. This method does not only limit to the daily habits but also the things that you generally forget in your routine. The things can be as small as picking up the newspaper in the morning, paying the bill or anything else. You will start to see the changes and you are likely to bring them into habit the next time you do it. Once you bring this new habit into picture reward yourself and praise yourself for the achievement. This will not only boost your confidence but also make you feel good about yourself. Creating a new habit is not easy but with time and effort, this is possible. Make sure that you exercise every day so that your brain remains healthy and you forget things less.
Work on your anxiety
When someone becomes anxious they tend to forget the thing even if they remember it. So avoid being anxious and calm yourself down. If something is troubling you then take some time out and think of the reason behind the anxiety. Once you can figure out the reason behind it, your memory will improve dramatically and you will feel confident about yourself. If you know that you tend to forget things, then make it appoint to write them down. This way you will not forget them and also stay organized. Write down the daily appointments, task or anything else that you need on a daily basis. Lack of sleep can also be a cause of anxiousness. Make sure you are getting a good night’s sleep so that your brain is fresh and healthy in the morning.
So, if you’ve learned to trust that you are good enough, what would be different about you? How would your life change? For years, I believed I paid no attention to what it meant to say. Yes, I never noticed how my decisions to pursue any endeavors was based on my preconceived idea of what is or is not possible. Keep in mind I had nearly complete faith in my ability to fail and be laughed at. This approach to life is common for many people. There was no single event that changed my view of my potential. It was mastering my ability to identify successful behaviors from the past then leveraging those behaviors to grow and do different things. The big surprise was I had abilities that I’d been using all along to manage my day to day life but not necessarily grow.
The strategies I learned to cultivate and use towards accelerating my growth were already in play. I just didn’t recognize what I was doing. The most important are Adaptability, I am a master at dealing with the consistency of change. I embrace change because it sharpens my ability to find new pathways and directions for learning. If you can master adaptation you can learn to control one of the biggest roadblocks to personal growth, fear or fear of change. Adaptability has a very important upside, it builds confidence.
The reward is that you get to change your life for the better when and as often as you’d like to. Everything becomes possible when you think that you’re capable. Failure is no longer a fear but a useful tool for research that provides you with information that increases your ability to achieve rather than prevent you from moving forward. The ultimate advantage of assuming the best about yourself is you’re rarely disappointed.
The Must-Do List
I believe that success starts in the moment. I coach myself to think of myself as excellent. This sounds simple enough however there is a science to it. Everyone will say set goals and plan your strategy. It needs to be a bit more than that. It also needs to involve more of your inside view of who you are versus what you think you want. What I mean is think of how this goal will make you feel? How will it change your life? Will it impact how you are viewed? Get to the real reason for this choice. If the answers to these questions inspire you to pursue further then you are in alignment with this goal. I recommend looking at the daily achievements needed to attain this goal. What must I do each day and how must I feel in order to be motivated to do it daily? It’s this must-do list and the corresponding mood that will guide you to be more engaged in the moment and keep you in alignment with accomplishment.
The Physical Reminder
Next, you need a way to stay engaged in the moment. This is important because distractions will not stop just because you want to achieve a goal. You must find ways to snap-back into that state of excellence. This may sound odd but I use mild discomfort as a tool to remain focused on a concept throughout the day. Nothing harmful of course but a rubber band around the wrist would do the trick. I personally use my watch. I buckle the strap a little tighter than normal so that I know it’s there I associate that discomfort with the goal I am working on. So, several times during the day I touch my wrist and adjust the strap. While doing that I check in with myself and see how well I’ve maintained focus and how close I am to achieving the day’s tasks for the goal. This affords you a random audit of your thoughts and how you’re engaging in your personal view of yourself.
Finally, you must find ways that allow you to recognize your efforts and validate that achievement with some sort of celebration. This is something most people fail at doing because it seems like it would be less than modest or over indulgent. However celebrating achievements, great and small, serves as the motor that drives continuous achievement. I see it as the light at the next stop of the tunnel. Knowing that it’s not the final stop, it keeps me focused on short term successes rather than being overly concerned with what I must do next or why I don’t have to complete the journey to its successful completion. These are some of the techniques I use to coach myself and others. I hope the same is true for you.
“In pursuit of success, the only form of fear that is acceptable is the fear of regret”.
Avoid The Catastrophic View
This must be one of the most damaging dream killers known to man. When I speak with client’s friends or strangers about their dream, my favorite type of conversation to have by the way. It takes a moment or two to get individuals to share their ideas. I think it’s important to be a source of inspiration for those who speak about their dreams aloud. I noticed, however, that many of these conversations move from the desired outcome to the created list of impossibilities that paralyze the pursuit of dreams. This “dream killer” mentality is an important thing to understand. It’s a way to keep you from acting, it’s that part of your subconscious mind designed to protect you from harm in the form of failure, disappointment or embarrassment. To avoid this, start with embracing it. Yes, explore all possible outcomes. Both good and bad. The key to this approach is to think of what you could learn by failing and what you would do the next time. Create a list of possible failures and the learnings you would gain. Create a vision of this idea with perfect execution in addition to the less than positive outcome. The combination of these two creates a version with a list of possible challenges that you can build a plan. It also offers a clarified view that makes it easier to act.
Work the Problem
I once read an article about how NASA solves big engineering problems. I have since adopted this approach and feel it is one of the most important tools I use for achievement. At the start of any goal, there are problems that do not have immediate solutions, questions that are without answers. This is another road block that stops progress in its tracks. If you were a NASA employee, you would be instructed to put the unsolvable problems and unanswerable questions in an imaginary black box with the accepted belief that all problems have solutions and all questions have answers. Then work on the part of the challenge that has a clear path. What you will find is that over time the answers reveal themselves and the puzzle come together. You must keep working the problem until it is solved.
Understand Facts and Emotions
I think this is the most difficult strategy to adopt because it requires you to be present and conscious of how shortfalls or setbacks affect you emotionally. Many times, a setback, no matter how big or small is enough to slow or stop an action. Ask yourself the following questions to help manage your state of mind during this time. How does this change my view of my goal? What is it that has changed about me? What will I lose if I don’t complete this goal? Am I willing to break a promise to myself if I give up? These questions are designed to help you center yourself and re-engage your pursuit of a goal. I think part of releasing this fear is acknowledging its existence. It is perfectly fine to be afraid of a goal, some might say it’s actually a sign that you are pushing yourself to reach that full potential when you’re slightly fearful. Fear is a normal part of the process, not a reason to stop. Keep that in mind when you feel your motivation waning.
Watch the Sunrise
This is one of my favorite assignments that I give to my clients. You can google that exact time the sun rises and then set your clock to wake you up just before it. If you’re not a morning person you can always go back to sleep, however, this act of watching the sunrise is one of the most wonderful benefits of living and its price never changes. I refer to the sun rising as the great reset! The act of sitting and watching the sunrise provides you with the most obvious truth that each day is truly a new start. If you are enduring a challenge in your life I promise that watching the sunrise will provide a relieving inspiration and most of all a better understanding of what truly is important. The sunrise is a wonder to enjoy no matter where you are in your life. Enjoy it.
Strategic Acts of Kindness
We often hear the occasional feel good story about a random act of kindness. They are beautiful and create a sense of joy knowing that there are people in the world that believe in kindness.
Social media is now mostly seen as a tool to glorify the worst in humanity, however, it also provides a platform for the millions of acts of kindness caught on video, so what if we all decide that we could be more strategic and commit to being an instrument of kindness. Think of some of the little things that make you smile, the moment when you were provided with an unexpected gift of some kind. I like to thank people for helping contribute to my day or letting a person know that their kind words or smile makes them my MVP for the day! Simple acts of kindness should be sincere and purposeful. They almost always add up to a day filled with more joy and a real sense of presence.
Listening with a Loving Ear.
We live in a world with unlimited ways of communication at any hour of the day or night. Even with all the technology that allows us to talk with each other, there seems to be a real need for many of us to be heard and understood. My idea of listening with a loving ear is about cultivating your ability to appreciate the experiences and life stories of those around you. Friends and strangers have compelling stories that go untold because there is this feeling that no one cares. Appreciation of these stories leads to new and enhanced friendships that are based on trust and honesty. Few things could be more valuable. Listening with a loving ear means you are here to enjoy the journey as told by someone else. You are not required to advise or provide an opinion. Simply listen so that the other person can be heard with love.
My earliest view of Intelligence was narrow at best. I knew three versions of the word. Those that were, those that weren’t and those that were average. I am happy to say that none of these versions were deemed unacceptable in the eyes of my family and immediate circle. All were welcomed. As an adult, I stumbled on ways to expand my intelligence. In this post, I will discuss my approach to the end feeding off my intelligence. The most important realization I can share is that you crave intellectual growth. The value of knowledge will serve you throughout your life in ways you cannot imagine until the moment you need it.
I love curiosity. It’s this great treasure hunt and everything you find has value. I use curiosity to find new behaviors that may benefit me or something I know. Curiosity is one of the best techniques for those who struggle with social anxiety. Asking questions to learn about someone gives them something to talk about and you the ability to calmly listen without fear of saying the wrong thing or worse having nothing to say. The art of being interested will make you interesting. Develop a natural curiosity by trying new foods, taking different routes home from work, chatting with new people and asking questions.
Another wonderful way to add a different facet to the gem that is your mind, is to travel. Take trips and look for an off-the-beaten-path experience. Live like a local. Eat their food, wear their clothes and study their traditions. Travel as far as you can, as often as you can. Traveling to other places is life changing for a number of reasons. It gives you another view of the world. Travel can help you expand your circle of friends and create a network of travel buddies. It also gives you an idea of how your home is viewed by the outside world. Travel will make your intellect wealthier with every trip. Remember, the further from home you travel the more exotic you become.
Ok, I know what you’re thinking. Reading is boring and it makes me sleepy. So what happens when you’re watching a TV show and you don’t like it? What do you do? You stop watching… same logic here. I would argue that most people would enjoy reading if they had an author and subject that sparked their imagination. For me, it was science fiction which naturally yields an interest in science of today, which made me interested in the people behind the science. I then discovered a love of biographies and history. So, reading is essential to the growth of your mind and the use of your imagination. Start with books you find interesting and develop a curiosity for new and different experiences through books.