How to create an unstoppable drive that moves mountains!

When you think of the most successful people you know and how they continue to succeed over and over you probably wonder how they do it. Are they just born with it? What’s the secret? For those of us with ADHD, our challenge sometimes prevents us from staying inspired until a goal is achieved. One thing you must do is understand the important difference between motivation and drive. Motivation is great but it is also temporary drive is most important because it provides the fuel you will need to continue when your motivation begins to dull. So I ordered to create the type of drive the insures success you must create a moving image of goal achievement. The following series of questions are designed to solidify the type of drive that keeps your focus. Remember to be honest with yourself and hold yourself to the highest level of accountability when outlining your strategy for achieving any goal. Review these questions and define answers that fall into place for you begin your path to excellence one goal at a time.

 What will this change for me?

Asking this question after you have created a goal will ensure this is what you truly want. You must then understand why you want this. Asking this question is important because it provides clarity and is the underlining rationale behind your goal. For someone with ADHD creating inspiration that can be converted to actions is an important life strategy. It’s good for anyone but essential for those with this condition, this question helps you begin to see yourself in a different light. It also gives you the ability to reform your reality. It’s a way of creating a belief in an idea. I ask this question to also test how serious I am about a goal or idea. It’s a question that filters and helps you develop a focus on something you truly desire. To further solidify your commitment to a goal ask these additional questions

How will you feel?

We don’t think enough about how we feel during the achievement of a goal, the feeling is an important driver for achievement. When you think of how you feel it puts into the mindset of taking action. For example, think of how you feel after a great hike or a bike ride. That high is something that will motivate you to do it again and again. It becomes something you look forward to.

How will you look?

How you see yourself attaining a goal also adds clarity to your desired achievement. How will the world see you? As smart, confident, attractive. Create an image of your ideal self in this moment,

What will a typical day be for you?

This will bring the ideal into a more realistic space. How will you feel is an important question because you can anchor yourself to the idea but recall that feeling on a regular basis.

Next, create an image of yourself in the perfect state. The state of mind that is confident, passionate whatever it is picture yourself as that.

Finally,

The detailed approach to creating a moving and vibrant image of your goal is my most effective way to create an unstoppable drive that leads to lasting change. Think of this as a movie that you will watch over and over as it begins to play out in real-time.  I highly recommend setting this to music so that it becomes second nature and you can quickly put yourself into the state of mind that drives you.  Use these tactics to give you the ability to take massive action towards achieving  your goals and developing the important skill of being driven to success

How To Use Love As A Weapon Of Massive Construction

 

The word love is usually described in terms of romance and relationships. Let me say first, I believe in Love, I use the word multiple times per day and spare no expense in the use of the word to describe the deep joy I have for those I treasure. I once described Love as a weapon of mass construction. I wrote the words down and posted it on social media. I received a fair amount of positive feedback. I wanted to expand the view of this word and help others unleash its power. I have outlined three ways in which I use love in my daily life and the impact it has.

The Loving View

I learned the benefit of having a view through observation when I’m presented with a viewpoint different than my own, especially if it upsets me. I have trained myself  into the mindset of that opposing view and found its origin. This approach is not designed to make you agreeable to another view. However, it does help deepen your compassion for those unlike you. This does take work however, the payoff is you feel so much less frustration.

 

The Loving Response

This approach is so powerful. It’s used on social media regularly. I am committed to sharing my writing in a positive and uplifting way. Now, we all can agree that Social Media can have no shortage of negative comments begging for a response. If it is your choice to respond with Love, here’s a great exercise, find a post on social media, one that is possibly written by someone. Think about what you’d say. Then think about how you’d feel after posting it. That satisfying feeling you get when you’ve gotten your point across. Now what if you responded instead with something like, “I wish for you only the best and brightest days filled with true love and happiness.”

As I write this, I feel better, I feel a sense of release. I have gifted someone a loving idea. A surprise that will invite self-reflection and possibly reframe the dialogue in such a way that all leave the conversation feeling more connected to their own humanity.

 

The Loving Action

Loving actions are things you do for people that create moments of defined and unexpected joy. This is a bit like random acts of kindness. Which is wonderful. I prefer intentional acts of loving kindness. Plan on making those around you smile, decide to do something for someone that you know will make them feel connected and loved. It’s actually something that quickly changes how you view yourself and how you view the world. I use observation and compassion as the lens in which I view the events of each day. I believe in using both to find ways to communicate the importance of love.

What Does It Take?

 

Everyone has big dreams but do you know what it takes to make those dreams a reality? More importantly, are you willing to do what is needed to attain this dream? Most people are not or have underestimated what’s needed. Then there are those that are comfortable with just dreaming about it. The long and the short of it is dream all you want, dream as biggest as you want, all things are possible. Those that are willing to stay up late working on a dream will make it. Those that are willing to look foolish in the short term get success in the long term. Those that make no excuses about excuses will not be excused from success! Push yourself to more and be more. Discover your unique brand of success.

Clear Vision 

Start with having an idea of what it is you want to accomplish and it’s completed form. It’s not enough to say I want to lose weight. You need to be specific, you need to have a vision of what you would like to look or have an idea of someone you could model yourself after. Whatever your goal is, it always starts with having a clear vision. It serves as the road map or pattern for your eventual success. Now, having a clear vision is hardly enough to hit the target, however, it is a vital step and should not be overlooked. This vision should also be revisited throughout the course of Time when you are working towards your goal.

Courage 

Anyone that wants to do something that hasn’t been done before has to address the idea of being afraid of achieving that goal. Courage is the ability to move forward and go after what it is that you want even though you might be afraid. You still know it must be done. On the other side of that fear is your goal and your achievement. Fear is not something that necessarily goes away but you should learn how to manage it and how it can stop you from achieving. Most obstacles are not outside, they are internal, they are self-inflicted wounds that you must learn how to manage in order to achieve greatness in any endeavor.

Strategic Planning 

Planning goes hand-in-hand with having a clear vision of what it is that you want to achieve. For individuals with ADHD, having a strategic plan gives them the ability to outline their daily achievement necessity that will lead to bold achievement goals. This is essential to the success of any goal. Strategic planning is just about mapping out your daily actions or weekly actions. It’s also about looking at what must be achieved every day in order to meet your targeted destination. For individuals that are interested in achievement, it always comes down to what it is that you are willing to do all day in order to hit the target.

No Excuses 

You must have the ability to remove the word ‘No’ from your vocabulary. If you talk to anyone who has had extraordinary success in life at some point in their life they learned that the word ‘No’ does not apply to them. You must be willing to have a ‘no excuses’ approach to driving towards your goal or attainment of your goal.

Is There Anything Positive About Having ADHD?

 

Here a Five traits adults living with ADHD can celebrate about!

It only takes one Google search to find tons of information about the difficulties surrounding ADHD and its symptoms. Many adults who have been newly diagnosed with ADHD have no idea of some of the wonderful strengths associated with ADHD. This is not to minimize the impact of some of the negative symptoms of ADHD. It is, however, designed to help those who have ADHD start to realize their true potential. Look at these five traits associated with ADHD, think of your own experiences, and see how some have fit into your life. Many adults with ADHD stumble over their strengths, many adults have such low self-esteem because of this disorder that they don’t realize they have these strengths. They view them merely as ‘accidents’ or ‘lucky breaks’ but not inherent skills that are associated with having ADHD.

Adaptability

Adults living with ADHD are natural at following the current, as it flows and adapts to whatever the situation is. Adaptability is an important strength to have. Many a time those living with ADHD learn to adjust to situations or modify their behaviors depending on their surroundings. While there are many people struggling with this, those with ADHD find the change a welcome relief to what could have been perceived as mundane or boring. Adults with ADHD may look for ways to experience new and exciting adventures. So being able to adapt is part of the process.

Imaginative

So, daydreaming may seem like something children do but those living with ADHD are masters at this. On the outside, it may seem like a very bad or useless skill to have but when put into the proper perspective, being imaginative is incredibly valuable and if the person living with ADHD is in the right type of workspace it could mean the difference between being the worst employee (accounting) or the best employee in the world (web design).

Entrepreneurial

Looking at the first two strengths it makes perfect sense that adults living with ADHD are natural-born entrepreneurs. They need to be in control of their own destiny, not reporting to a strict boss that lays down rules that they must adhere to. Being the captain of their own ship is most desirable. So, having ADHD makes you a fine candidate to be the owner of your own business. It’s important to note that not one business can be launched on your own. If you’re reading this and you have ADHD make sure you establish all the resources necessary to take the plunge into business ownership. Hire the right people to help you outsource all the tedious work and make sure that you have a system in place for operations before you begin.

Hopeful

This is a sort of foreshadowing of the next trait we will discuss, but this is one of the most important adherent traits anyone can have. The ability to find hope in just about every situation is one of the best qualities anyone can have but it is second nature to individuals living with ADHD. Part of having a mind wired this way means there is always another way – there’s always hope. That combined with the other traits listed is part of the equation of confidence for someone living with ADHD.

Problem-solver

As mentioned in the last section, adults living with ADHD know there’s always a solution to a problem. The difference between adults living with ADHD and others is we will look for the solution. We know that everything can be a challenge so we are ready to Hunt for the answers. We need to accomplish whatever task there is in front of us. Since being naturally curious we ask lots of questions and thus store lots of answers, so the process or system of solving problems becomes easier and faster for those living with ADHD.

So, if you are an adult living with ADHD or you are newly diagnosed, remember these five traits as your natural gifts, and when you cultivate and grow those gifts it will make your existence with ADHD a lot easier. Mastering these strengths will also give you the opportunity to dream bigger and do more.

Is ADHD A Gift Or A Curse?

Understanding the gift of ADHD

The title of this post may seem hard to understand for someone who has just discovered they have ADHD. The truth is there is still a genuine stigma around ADHD and symptoms associated with ADHD. Many adults live with ADHD without ever having been diagnosed and experience many difficulties in just about all areas of their lives. To understand that ADHD is truly a gift first you must recognize the challenging side of the disorder and how to manage that part of ADHD effectively. Start with the following three strategies to begin your journey of discovering the gift of ADHD.

Organization

One of the most common and most challenging traits adults with ADHD live with is a lack of organization. The foundation of managing ADHD starts with creating a system for organizing all parts of your life. Divide your life into four parts; home, work, finances and fitness. Go through each part of your life and think about your biggest challenges with organization in each of these areas. Then look at what it costs you in time and money by not having organization in these areas. This is important because understanding the impact will help you motivate yourself to make the changes you need. The key to organization is a great system for all the tasks that are difficult for you. Get assistance, have someone close to you or hire someone to create a system of organization in these areas. You will only need to focus on maintaining the system that has been put in place for you. The key is making it a daily habit like brushing your teeth, combing your hair. When it is thought out in this way the task becomes automatic and less overwhelming.

Outsourcing

Some tasks are beyond organization, they just aren’t the type of things that people with ADHD can do, this is different for every adult living with ADHD. So for those things that you cannot do or are too much of a struggle find a way to outsource. For example, if you find it difficult to keep your home clean because your ADHD symptoms make it a challenge for you, look into having someone come and clean your home for you. This may seem like a very expensive solution, there are several different cleaning services and combinations of services that can be affordable. Using a cleaning service only once per month can help tremendously, remember the challenge is not about cleaning, it’s about being overwhelmed by the work. Having someone else do that work for you starts the system of organization and then you just maintain it until the next visit.

Challenge

If you’re an adult living with ADHD, you should remember that it’s important to push yourself to finish projects, achieve more and celebrate your successes. Try not to over judge yourself when you fall short of a desired goal but commit to continue and ultimately finish. This is important for you because challenging yourself helps you discover what is possible. Forgive yourself when you don’t quite hit the mark, but don’t ever stop trying, always look for ways to do more and get better and be your best.

Start with these three strategies, if you are new to your ADHD diagnoses or if you have some of the traits associated with ADHD, it can be the difference between viewing ADHD when it occurs or as most wonderful.

10 Confidence Builders For Adult Living With ADHD.

 

One of the fundamental principles of any success, for someone, is confidence. For those adults living with ADHD this can be a very important first step in discovering how to approach living with the traits associated with ADHD. Take a look at this list of 10 ways that you can influence your personal level of confidence and remember living with ADHD is all about discovering your brand of excellence.

  1. Know Your Worth

People that are known to have self-confidence have a real sense of what they bring to the table in almost all situations. So on this list of 10 strategies for building more self-confidence, knowing what you’re worth is number 1. Take a moment to look at the most important areas of your life and define your value in those areas. For example when you look at your job or career take an honest assessment of what it is that you do well, and  know what that value is to the organization you work for. The key to having confidence is knowing when to speak about your worth in the right situation.

  1. Know What You Want

Successful people tend to have a clearly defined strategy for what it is they want. Taking the time to outline goals and defining a pathway to those goals is one of the ways to building self-confidence for adults living with ADHD. This works well because you will build momentum as you accomplish goals, using these successes from previous accomplishments provides the fuel for future success.

  1. Positive Social Network

Successful people know that it is important to surround yourself with individuals who can provide positive reinforcement, support and real friendship. Socialize with individuals that uplift and add value to your life unconditionally.

  1. Be The Student

Find the time to learn more. Adults who have ADHD enjoy discovering new ideas and new information. Having a mindset of a student allows you to build your confidence by becoming aware of your world through learning. Successful people are always in ‘learning mode’.

  1. Judge The Cover Of Your Book

How you dress speaks volumes about you. One of the best ways to project a confident self image is to pay close attention to your personal appearance. Be sure that you are clean, neat and well-dressed for the occasion.

  1. Failure Is The Start Not The Finish

Take a scientific approach to failure. Successful people use failure as an opportunity to learn what went right and what went wrong. They then use that information to develop a new approach. It’s not personal it’s just part of the process. Adults with ADHD can find failures a real obstacle to success but if you can learn how to reprocess failure then you can accomplish any goal.

  1. Pump Some Iron

Or find some fitness routine that becomes a standard part of your life. Having an exercise program that you can adhere to is vitally important to your overall well-being. For adults with ADHD it is also one of the best ways to manage symptoms.

  1. Shine The Light On What You Do Well

Everyone has something that they do well in. The best way to discover confident is by demonstrating the things that you are really good at. Take one of these valuable skills and show off! This can take on many different forms, one of the best ways is by teaching someone. You can gain a new perspective of life, by getting feedback from the people you have taught.

  1. Expand You Horizons With Care

It is very important to be aware of the world around you. It’s also important to limit the amount of negative information that comes your way. Take the time to read about or discover interesting people, places and things. Start with the city and state that you live in, and expand from there. As you travel, you will meet different people and discover new ways of living. This will all become a part of your unique view of the world.

  1. Do Something That Scares You Every Month

One of the best ways to expand your confidence is by looking at those things that scare you, and just doing it. You should be defined by your successes and your abilities not by the things that scare you. You will find that practicing this approach will make it easier for you to do new and different things. It can be as simple as just trying something that you may not be good at. It’s the habit of managing that discomfort that helps you.

Keep this list with you and use it as a guide to manage your self-confidence. For adults living with ADHD self-confidence can be hard to come by and so being mindful of these 10 tips will help you stay on the path to discovering your brand of excellence.